Men will be Men

At last a guy has taken the time to write down this all Finally, the guys’ side of the story. We always hear “the rules” from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note.. these are all numbered “1” ON PURPOSE!

 

1. Men ARE not mind reader

 

1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.

 

1. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly Acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only If you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls, don’t Expect us to act like soap opera guys.

1. If you think you’re fat, you probably are. Don’t ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted in two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one .

1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible , Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not! A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will Be scratched. We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,” We will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

1. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, Expect an answer you don’t want to hear

1. Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as football, cars, bikes or games

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. U r in shape. Round IS a shape!

Pass this to as many men as you can – to give them a laugh. Also to to women for bigger laugh

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Family relations- understanding

 

 if a man does not understand how a woman is different, he can make things worse when he is trying to help. Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.

 

So many times a woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, and her husband, thinking he is helping, interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems. He has no idea why she isn’t pleased.

 

DAY-1

For example, Mary comes home from an exhausting day. She wants and needs to share her feelings about the day.

 

She says, “There is so much to do; I don’t have any time for myself.”

 

Tom says, “You should quit that job. You don’t have to work so hard. Find something you like to do.”

 

Mary says, “But I like my job. They just expect me to change everything at a moment’s notice.”

 

Tom says, “Don’t listen to them. just do what you can do.”

 

Mary says, “I am! I can’t believe I completely forgot to call my aunt today.”

 

Tom says, “Don’t worry about it, she’ll understand.”

 

Mary says, “Do you know what she is going through? She needs me.”

 

Tom says, “You worry too much, that’s why you’re so unhappy.”

 

Mary angrily says, “I am not always unhappy. Can’t you just listen to me?”

 

Tom says, “I am listening.”

 

Mary says, “Why do I even bother?”

 

After this conversation, Mary was more frustrated than when she arrived home seeking intimacy and companionship. Tom was also frustrated and had no idea what went wrong. He wanted to help, but his problem solving tactics didn’t work.

 

Without knowing about life on Venus, Tom didn’t understand how important it was just to listen without offering solutions. His solutions only made things worse. You see, Venusian never offer solutions when someone is talking. A way of honoring another Venusian is to listen patiently with empathy, seeking truly to understand the other’s feelings.

 

Tom had no idea that just listening with empathy to Mary express her feelings would bring her tremendous relief and fulfillment. When Tom heard about the Venusian and how much they needed to talk, he gradually learned how to listen.

 

 

DAY-2

When Mary now comes home tired and exhausted their conversations are quite different. They sound like this:

 

Mary says, “There is so much to do. I have no time for me.”

 

Tom takes a deep breath, relaxes on the exhale, and says, “Humph, sounds like you had a hard day.”

 

Mary says, “They expect me to change everything at a moment’s notice. I don’t know what to do.”

 

Tom pauses and then says, ” “Hmmm.”

 

Mary says, “I even forgot to call my aunt.”

 

Tom says with a slightly wrinkled brow, “Oh, no.”

 

Mary says, “She needs me so much right now. I feel so bad.”

 

Tom says, “You are such a loving person. Come here, let me give you a hug.”

 

Tom gives Mary a hug and she relaxes in his arms with a big sigh of relief. She then says, “I love talking with you. You make me really happy. Thanks for listening. I feel much better.”

 

Not only Mary but also Tom felt better. He was amazed at how much happier his wife was when he finally learned to listen. With this new awareness of their differences, Tom learned the wisdom of listening without offering solutions while Mary learned the wisdom of letting go and accepting without offering unsolicited advice or criticism.