Paru Maami- a real life story


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This was an article by Shri VV Sundaram reproduced below

  For those who have the time, energy and patience, here is an article of mine that India Currents, a California-based magazine, carried in their September issue.

Paru Mami’s Dignity
Paru Mami (name changed) of my village was, to quote a Hindi saying, Garib ki Joru, Sab ki Bhabhi – poor man’s wife, everybody’s sister-in-law.
Her husband, Nanu Jyosyar’s income as an elementary school teacher was insufficient to feed the family of five daughters and one son. Though his surname (Jyosyar, a version of Jyothishar or astrologer) referred to the family’s age-old profession, that line of work ended with his father. Nanu Mama had no clue whatsoever of astrology; otherwise he would have supplemented his income to make up the shortfall.
Consequently, the family was often in arrears on rent for the house they lived in. The owner, also a resident of the village, didn’t evict them on sheer humanitarian grounds, and compromised collecting rent in bits and pieces.
Wives and mothers in other houses in the village mitigated Paru Mami’s misery to the extent their own situation permitted, ensuring simultaneously that Paru Mami’s dignity was preserved. Whenever there was any family function, the lady of the house would request for Paru Mami’s assistance.
On such occasions, instead of telling Mami to bring all her children for lunch and giving her the feeling that such an invitation was being extended more to alleviate her suffering, the lady of the house would gently come up with a request: “Ha Paru, can I also request that your daughters give me a helping hand to cut vegetables, grind different pastes, pound spices, and fetch water from the well? And, ah, in between your tasks, please tell them not to rush home to prepare meals; prevail upon them to join us.”
This was the most honourable method the elderly ladies deployed to save Paru Mami from having to light the hearth at home. As for Mami’s husband, the ladies made sure to pack enough for a dinner on such occasions. Four or five functions a month gave Mami some respite.
As children, this gesture, when it occurred in our house, did cut into our own quota of appam, vadai, or payasam, but for some strange reason we felt elated watching Mami’s children having a rightfully earned hearty meal along with us.
Most houses also sought Mami’s services for the annual pickle event  – mango, lime, naarthankai (dried lime), veppala katti (curry leaves mixture). And every lady relied on Mami’s hand to add the final heaping of salt and spice for two reasons. First, she moderated the quantities of spices depending on the blood pressure level, or ulcer or other problems plaguing members of the house in question. Second, the ladies believed that under any other hand the pickle would sour and develop fungus sooner than later. At the end of her labours, Mami would be gifted with a jar of the prepared product, and sometimes betal leaves, aricanut, haldi-kumkum and a blouse piece and money.
Thus, Mami had a good collection of pickles on hand. Sometimes driven to despair the family made do with a bare minimum meal – rice, and thin buttermilk. On these occasions Mami made up for the absence of a full course with an offer to her children to choose their own pickle: Karikkar Mami’s mango pickle; Karimasseri Mami’s lime pickle; or Kolathu Mami’s hot kadugu mangai (whole mango pickle). This effort to divert her children often worked – the children forgot what was missing on their plates in their eagerness to grab the pickle of their choice.
The visit of a son or daughter from Bombay, Delhi, Calcutta or Madras on a holiday was an annual or biennial occurrence in most households. It was a custom that when they returned the mothers packed them a tin of savoury – murukku, thattai, ribbon pakoda, or thenkozal – and some sweets: laddu, or Mysorepak. Mami would be commissioned to prepare these snacks.
Mami’s murukk chuttal, the art of maneuvering the raw paste into twisted rounds of five and seven circles was as perfect as Picasso’s symmetrical rounds. She was best in the village, if not in the town.
However, it must be admitted that her Mysore pak was a trial and error effort despite her years of experience. The outcome was as unpredictable as any One Day International cricket match. This however is not to suggest that on the not so successful occasions the product turned so bad as to be fit only as glue for Navaratri Kolu decoration. It could be eaten, just under a different name.
Thus Mami carried her domestic show with great aplomb and self-respect. If at any time she had to draw temporarily a measure of rice, or cooking oil, it was just from our house – and our house only.
While on an official visit to Calicut decades later, I visited Mami who had moved there with her only son and his family. The five daughters were all married by then.
Two of Mami’s daughters also lived in Calicut, one of them running a pickle business as cottage industry enterprise. I called on her. After offering me coffee and snacks, she said: “We hear your uncles are selling the ancestral house. I would be keen to buy it, just to perpetuate my childhood memory. Can you put in a word to them, please?” I promised to convey her wishes. Yes, at that time all members of our family had moved to cities, and the house was vacant, on the verge of dilapidation. My uncles were seriously thinking of selling it.
As I prepared to take leave, she asked me to wait. She went inside and returned with a shopping bag full of assorted pickles – easily 12 bottles. I had a tough time convincing her that it would be a problem for me to carry it either as a check-in luggage or as a cabin baggage.
I couldn’t help admire the wheel of time. The family that had endured hardship in the village was keen to own a house there, and we, who had nothing but pleasant memories, were trying to sever all connections.
But then that is what life is all about, I thought, as I packed the pickles with my clothing and headed to the airport. 


 

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Go Dutch – but why wait until 2013?

The Netherlands , where six per cent of the population is now Muslim, is scrapping multiculturalism.

The Dutch government says it will abandon the long-standing model of multiculturalism that has encouraged Muslim immigrants to create a parallel society within the Netherlands .

A new integration bill, which Dutch Interior Minister Piet Hein Donner presented to parliament on June 16, reads:
“The government shares the social dissatisfaction over the multicultural society model
And plans to shift priority to the values of the Dutch people.

In the new integration system, the values of the Dutch society play a central role.

With this change, the government steps away from the model of a multicultural society.

The letter continues: “A more obligatory integration is justified
Because the government also demands that from its own citizens.

It is necessary because otherwise the society gradually grows apart
And eventually no one feels at home anymore in the Netherlands .

The new integration policy will place more demands on immigrants.
For example, immigrants will be required to learn the Dutch language,
And the government will take a tougher approach to immigrants who ignore Dutch values or disobey Dutch law.

The government will also stop offering special subsidies for Muslim immigrants because, according to Donner;
“It is not the government’s job to integrate immigrants.” (How bloody true).

The government will introduce new legislation that outlaws forced marriages and will also impose tougher measures against Muslim immigrants who lower their chances of employment by the way they dress.

More specifically, the government will impose a ban on face-covering, Islamic burqas as of January 1, 2013.

Holland has done that whole liberal thing, and realized – maybe too late –
That creating a nation of tribes will kill the nation itself.

The future of Australia, the UK and Canada may well be read here.

READERS NOTE: Muslim immigrants leave their countries of birth because of civil and political unrest
“CREATED BY THE VERY NATURE OF THEIR CULTURE.”

Countries like Holland, Canada, the UK and Australia have an established way of life that actually works,
So why embrace the unworkable? If Muslims do not wish to accept another culture, the answer is simple;
                      “STAY WHERE YOU ARE!!”

This gives a whole new meaning to the term; ‘Dutch Courage’ – Unfortunately Australian, UK, and Canadian politicians
Don’t have the … Guts to do the same. There’s a whole lot of truth here!!!!

ELECTION 2013 IS COMING

A Nation of Sheep, Breeds a Government of Wolves!

I’M 100% for PASSING THIS ON!!!
Let’s Take a Stand!!!

Borders: Closed!

Language: English or French.

Culture: The Constitution, is the Bill of Rights!

Drug Free: Mandatory Drug Screening before Welfare!

NO freebies to: Non-Citizens!  We the people are coming!!!

 
 
 
 

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