Health Benefits of Dates


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Health benefits of 
dates are uncountable, as this fruit is affluent in natural fibres. Dates are even rich in several vitamins and minerals. These natural products contain oil, calcium, sulphur, ironpotassium,phosphorousmanganesecopper and magnesium which are advantageous for health. It is said that consumption of one date daily is necessary for a balanced and healthy diet. Dates help in fighting constipation, intestinal disorders, weight gain, heart problems, sexual weakness, diarrhoea and abdominal cancer.
Health benefits of dates have made them the best nourishment for muscles development. People consume dates in several ways, like mixing the paste of the dates with milk, yoghurt or with bread or butter to make the food tasty and healthy. This paste is beneficial for both adults and children, especially during the time of recovery. According to the modern medicine survey, it is known that dates are useful in preventing abdominal cancer. It is also seen that many Muslims break their fast by eating dates and water according to their traditions. Breaking fast with eating dates helps us to avoid overeating of the food after the fast. When the body absorbs the nutritional value of the dates, the feeling of hunger gets pacified.
Dates are termed as a crown of sweets and ideal food which easily balances and digests food. It gives extra energy to a tired human body within half an hour after taking it. Dates are considered to be the best diet for confinement of the women. American Cancer Society recommends intake of 20-35 grams of dietary fibre in a day, supplied through dates. It is said that taking one date in a day will help you to maintain your healthy eyes for your lifetime. They are quiet effective in guarding the night blindness problems.
Benefits of dates
  • Constipation: Date is termed to be a laxative food. This is the reason that dates are beneficial for people suffering from constipation. For getting the laxative effect from dates, you need to soak dates for one full night in water. You should consume these soaked dates in the morning like syrup to get their actual advantages.
  • Intestinal Disorders: The nicotinic content that is present in the dates is said to be beneficial for curing any kinds of intestinal disorders. Continuous intake of dates helps to maintain a check on the growth of the pathological organisms and thus, helps in the rise of friendly bacteria in the intestines.
  • Weight Gain: Dates are said to be a part of healthy diet. They consist of sugar, fats, proteins as well as many essential vitamins. If the dates are consumed with the paste of cucumber, one can easily come out from the problem of over-slimming. One kilogram of dates contains almost 3,000 calories. These calories alone are sufficient to meet the daily requirements of a human body.
  • Healthy Heart: Dates are quite helpful in maintaining your heart in a healthy condition. When soaked for a night and crushed in the morning and consumed, they prove to be quite advantageous for weak hearts. They help in fortifying the heart, if taken twice in a week.
  • Sexual Weakness: Dates are even beneficial for increasing sexual stamina in the human body. A handful of dates, when soaked in fresh goat‘s milk for the night and then grinded in the same milk with the mixture of cardamom powder and honey, becomes a very useful tonic for increasing sexendurance and sterility caused due to functional disorders.
  • Diarrhea: Ripe dates contain potassium. Potassium is beneficial for controlling diarrhea. They are easily digestible, which helps to cope up with the problems of diarrhea.
  • Intoxication: Dates are known as an excellent remedy for alcoholic intoxication. Dates provide quick relief in the case of alcoholic intoxication. They should be rubbed and soaked overnight for getting more nutritious values from them.
  • Abdominal Cancer: Dates are beneficial for curing abdominal cancer. They work as useful tonic for all age groups. They work as better as the medicines, and are natural and do not bear any side effects in the body. They can be easily digested and used for supplying extra and needed energy.
Although dates carry tremendous nutritional values, great care should be taken in their selection because they consists of sticky surface which attracts various impurities in them. Hence, you should consume only those dates that are processed and packed properly. Make sure to wash them thoroughly before consuming. This will help remove the impurities present in them.

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Resolving conflicts


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Resolving Conflicts

Problems, problems… be it home or workplace, life is full of them. Whenever there is a problem, the most common thing people tend to do is
1.           Get afraid or uncomfortable and wish it would go away
2.           Feeling that they have to come up with an answer and it has to be the right answer so they end up getting confused and disturbed.
3.           Looking for someone to blame. Being faced with a problem becomes a problem. And that’s a problem because, in fact, there are always going to be problems!
The reason we don’t feel comfortable dealing with conflict is because a feeling of something-bad going to happen plagues us. Little do we know that the goal of a good problem-solving process is to make us competent enough to tackle problems.
There are two important things to remember about problems and conflicts: they happen all the time. Any relationship, be it personal or professional is bound to have problems. Problems are nothing but opportunities to improve the system and the relationships. If you look at problems under this light, then you will not get worried about dealing with a problem.
The most common mistake in problem solving is trying to find a solution right away. That’s a mistake because it tries to put the solution at the beginning of the process, when what we need is a solution at the end of the process.
The 1…2…3s
1. Identify The Issues.
Be clear about what the problem is. Remember that different people might have different views of what the issues are. Everybody is entitled to hold his or her opinion.
2. Understand Everyone’s Interests.
This is a critical step that is usually missing. Interests are the needs that you want satisfied by any given solution. We often ignore our true interests as we become attached to one particular solution. The best solution is the one that satisfies everyone’s interests. This is the time for active listening. Put down your differences for a while and listen to each other with the intention to understand. Separate the naming of interests from the listing of solutions.
3. List The Possible Solutions (Options)
This is the time to do some brainstorming. There may be lots of room for creativity. Separate the listing of options from the evaluation of the options.
4. Evaluate The Options.
What are the pluses and minuses? Honestly! Separate the evaluation of options from the selection of options.
5. Select An Option Or Options.
What’s the best option, in the balance? Is there a way to combine a number of options together for a more satisfactory solution?
6. Document The Agreement(S).
Don’t rely on memory. Writing it down will help you think through all the details and implications.
7. Agree On Contingencies, Monitoring, And Evaluation.
Conditions may change. Make contingency agreements about foreseeable future circumstances. How will you monitor compliance and follow-through? Create opportunities to evaluate the agreements and their implementation. Like you could say, “Let’s try it this way for three months and then look at it.”
Tips
  • Firstly analyse the problem. What is this that triggered of this problem? Situation, people or something else? When you have identified the problem, think of how you can deal with it.
  • Define the problem. Think of how you can deal with the opposite party and settle the problem amicably.
  • Decide whether you want to confront the person/ party who is bothering you (It is usually better to air grievances in the open than to let them aggravate). It also will ensure a healthy working relationship…till the next conflict, of course.
  • Speak to the other person calmly, politely and rationally. Focus on the situation and facts, avoiding gossip and personal attacks.
  • Be careful not to express hostility in your posture, facial expression or tone. Be assertive without being aggressive.
  • Listen to the other person carefully: What is she trying to say? Be sure you understand her position. Think what you would have done and how you have reacted if you were in her shoes.
  • Express interest in what the other person is saying. You can acknowledge her ideas without necessarily agreeing or submitting.
  • Communicate clearly what you want, offering positive suggestions and recommendations.
  • Speak to your supervisor if a problem with a difficult co-worker seriously threatens your work, but avoid whining.
  • When you are dealing with problematic personalities, try to understand what motivates their behaviour and then tailor your actions to work with that personality type. Once you grasp why people behave as they do, you will be able to interact with them more effectively.
  • Be firm with bullies at work – don’t allow them to pressure you into doing anything unwanted. Be forceful in your opinions, but act with a bit of caution.
  • Keep away from office politics. Getting into them is easy but getting out is very difficult.
Effective problem solving does take some time and attention more of the latter than the former. Take it right and you’ll find yourself in good shape for the straightaway that follows. Take it too fast and you may not be in as good shape. Working through this process is not always a strictly linear exercise. You may have to cycle back to an earlier step. For example, if you’re having trouble selecting an option, you may have to go back to thinking about the interests.
The more difficult and important the problem, the more helpful and necessary it is to use a disciplined process. If you’re just trying to decide where to go out for lunch, you probably don’t need to go through these seven steps! Don’t worry if it feels a bit unfamiliar and uncomfortable at first. You’ll have lots of opportunities to practice because life never ceases to have problems! 

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Tale of two brothers


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This is a story of two brothers. One was a drug addict and a drunkard who frequently beat up his family. The other one was a very successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family. Some people wanted to find out why two brothers from the same parents, brought up in the same environment, could be so different.

The first one was asked, “How come you do what you do? You are a drug addict, a drunk, and you beat your family. Whatmotivates you?” He said, “My father.” They asked, “What about your father?” The reply was, “My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his family. What do you expect me to be? That is what I am.”
They went to the brother who was doing everything right and asked him the same question. “How come you are doing everything right ? What is your source of motivation?” And guess what he said? “My father. When I was a little boy, I used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind, that is not what I wanted to be.”

Both were deriving their strength and motivation from the same source, but one was using it negatively and the other positively….

  

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Benefits of Dates



Health benefits of 
dates are uncountable, as this fruit is affluent in natural fibres. Dates are even rich in several vitamins and minerals. These natural products contain oil, calcium, sulphur, ironpotassium,phosphorousmanganesecopper and magnesium which are advantageous for health. It is said that consumption of one date daily is necessary for a balanced and healthy diet. Dates help in fighting constipation, intestinal disorders, weight gain, heart problems, sexual weakness, diarrhoea and abdominal cancer.

 

Health benefits of dates have made them the best nourishment for muscles development. People consume dates in several ways, like mixing the paste of the dates with milk, yoghurt or with bread or butter to make the food tasty and healthy. This paste is beneficial for both adults and children, especially during the time of recovery. According to the modern medicine survey, it is known that dates are useful in preventing abdominal cancer. It is also seen that many Muslims break their fast by eating dates and water according to their traditions. Breaking fast with eating dates helps us to avoid overeating of the food after the fast. When the body absorbs the nutritional value of the dates, the feeling of hunger gets pacified.

 

Dates are termed as a crown of sweets and ideal food which easily balances and digests food. It gives extra energy to a tired human body within half an hour after taking it. Dates are considered to be the best diet for confinement of the women. American Cancer Society recommends intake of 20-35 grams of dietary fibre in a day, supplied through dates. It is said that taking one date in a day will help you to maintain your healthy eyes for your lifetime. They are quiet effective in guarding the night blindness problems.

Benefits of dates

  • Constipation: Date is termed to be a laxative food. This is the reason that dates are beneficial for people suffering from constipation. For getting the laxative effect from dates, you need to soak dates for one full night in water. You should consume these soaked dates in the morning like syrup to get their actual advantages.
  • Intestinal Disorders: The nicotinic content that is present in the dates is said to be beneficial for curing any kinds of intestinal disorders. Continuous intake of dates helps to maintain a check on the growth of the pathological organisms and thus, helps in the rise of friendly bacteria in the intestines.
  • Weight Gain: Dates are said to be a part of healthy diet. They consist of sugar, fats, proteins as well as many essential vitamins. If the dates are consumed with the paste of cucumber, one can easily come out from the problem of over-slimming. One kilogram of dates contains almost 3,000 calories. These calories alone are sufficient to meet the daily requirements of a human body.
  • Healthy Heart: Dates are quite helpful in maintaining your heart in a healthy condition. When soaked for a night and crushed in the morning and consumed, they prove to be quite advantageous for weak hearts. They help in fortifying the heart, if taken twice in a week.
 
  • Sexual Weakness: Dates are even beneficial for increasing sexual stamina in the human body. A handful of dates, when soaked in fresh goat‘s milk for the night and then grinded in the same milk with the mixture of cardamom powder and honey, becomes a very useful tonic for increasing sexendurance and sterility caused due to functional disorders.
  • Diarrhea: Ripe dates contain potassium. Potassium is beneficial for controlling diarrhea. They are easily digestible, which helps to cope up with the problems of diarrhea.
  • Intoxication: Dates are known as an excellent remedy for alcoholic intoxication. Dates provide quick relief in the case of alcoholic intoxication. They should be rubbed and soaked overnight for getting more nutritious values from them.
  • Abdominal Cancer: Dates are beneficial for curing abdominal cancer. They work as useful tonic for all age groups. They work as better as the medicines, and are natural and do not bear any side effects in the body. They can be easily digested and used for supplying extra and needed energy.

Although dates carry tremendous nutritional values, great care should be taken in their selection because they consists of sticky surface which attracts various impurities in them. Hence, you should consume only those dates that are processed and packed properly. Make sure to wash them thoroughly before consuming. This will help remove the impurities present in them.

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References: American Cancer Society

 

Resolving Conflicts


Resolving Conflicts

Problems, problems… be it home or workplace, life is full of them. Whenever there is a problem, the most common thing people tend to do is

 

1.           Get afraid or uncomfortable and wish it would go away

2.           Feeling that they have to come up with an answer and it has to be the right answer so they end up getting confused and disturbed.

3.           Looking for someone to blame. Being faced with a problem becomes a problem. And that’s a problem because, in fact, there are always going to be problems!

 

The reason we don’t feel comfortable dealing with conflict is because a feeling of something-bad going to happen plagues us. Little do we know that the goal of a good problem-solving process is to make us competent enough to tackle problems.

 

There are two important things to remember about problems and conflicts: they happen all the time. Any relationship, be it personal or professional is bound to have problems. Problems are nothing but opportunities to improve the system and the relationships. If you look at problems under this light, then you will not get worried about dealing with a problem.

 

The most common mistake in problem solving is trying to find a solution right away. That’s a mistake because it tries to put the solution at the beginning of the process, when what we need is a solution at the end of the process.

 

The 1…2…3s

 

1. Identify The Issues.

Be clear about what the problem is. Remember that different people might have different views of what the issues are. Everybody is entitled to hold his or her opinion.

 

2. Understand Everyone’s Interests.

This is a critical step that is usually missing. Interests are the needs that you want satisfied by any given solution. We often ignore our true interests as we become attached to one particular solution. The best solution is the one that satisfies everyone’s interests. This is the time for active listening. Put down your differences for a while and listen to each other with the intention to understand. Separate the naming of interests from the listing of solutions.

 

3. List The Possible Solutions (Options)

This is the time to do some brainstorming. There may be lots of room for creativity. Separate the listing of options from the evaluation of the options.

 

4. Evaluate The Options.

What are the pluses and minuses? Honestly! Separate the evaluation of options from the selection of options.

 

5. Select An Option Or Options.

What’s the best option, in the balance? Is there a way to combine a number of options together for a more satisfactory solution?

 

6. Document The Agreement(S).

Don’t rely on memory. Writing it down will help you think through all the details and implications.

 

7. Agree On Contingencies, Monitoring, And Evaluation.

Conditions may change. Make contingency agreements about foreseeable future circumstances. How will you monitor compliance and follow-through? Create opportunities to evaluate the agreements and their implementation. Like you could say, “Let’s try it this way for three months and then look at it.”

 

Tips

 

  • Firstly analyse the problem. What is this that triggered of this problem? Situation, people or something else? When you have identified the problem, think of how you can deal with it.
  • Define the problem. Think of how you can deal with the opposite party and settle the problem amicably.
  • Decide whether you want to confront the person/ party who is bothering you (It is usually better to air grievances in the open than to let them aggravate). It also will ensure a healthy working relationship…till the next conflict, of course.
  • Speak to the other person calmly, politely and rationally. Focus on the situation and facts, avoiding gossip and personal attacks.
  • Be careful not to express hostility in your posture, facial expression or tone. Be assertive without being aggressive.
  • Listen to the other person carefully: What is she trying to say? Be sure you understand her position. Think what you would have done and how you have reacted if you were in her shoes.
  • Express interest in what the other person is saying. You can acknowledge her ideas without necessarily agreeing or submitting.
  • Communicate clearly what you want, offering positive suggestions and recommendations.
  • Speak to your supervisor if a problem with a difficult co-worker seriously threatens your work, but avoid whining.
  • When you are dealing with problematic personalities, try to understand what motivates their behaviour and then tailor your actions to work with that personality type. Once you grasp why people behave as they do, you will be able to interact with them more effectively.
  • Be firm with bullies at work – don’t allow them to pressure you into doing anything unwanted. Be forceful in your opinions, but act with a bit of caution.
  • Keep away from office politics. Getting into them is easy but getting out is very difficult.

 

Effective problem solving does take some time and attention more of the latter than the former. Take it right and you’ll find yourself in good shape for the straightaway that follows. Take it too fast and you may not be in as good shape. Working through this process is not always a strictly linear exercise. You may have to cycle back to an earlier step. For example, if you’re having trouble selecting an option, you may have to go back to thinking about the interests.

 

The more difficult and important the problem, the more helpful and necessary it is to use a disciplined process. If you’re just trying to decide where to go out for lunch, you probably don’t need to go through these seven steps! Don’t worry if it feels a bit unfamiliar and uncomfortable at first. You’ll have lots of opportunities to practice because life never ceases to have problems! 

Tale of Two Brothers



This is a story of two brothers. One was a drug addict and a drunkard who frequently beat up his family. The other one was a very successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family. Some people wanted to find out why two brothers from the same parents, brought up in the same environment, could be so different.

 

The first one was asked, “How come you do what you do? You are a drug addict, a drunk, and you beat your family. Whatmotivates you?” He said, “My father.” They asked, “What about your father?” The reply was, “My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his family. What do you expect me to be? That is what I am.”

 

They went to the brother who was doing everything right and asked him the same question. “How come you are doing everything right ? What is your source of motivation?” And guess what he said? “My father. When I was a little boy, I used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind, that is not what I wanted to be.”

Both were deriving their strength and motivation from the same source, but one was using it negatively and the other positively….

  

 

பொன்மாளிகை வேண்டுமா ? — ஏன் ?


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வானவில் வளைவதுண்டு,
ஞாண் இழுத்தெய்தோர் உண்டோ?
வேள்வி நெய் ஆவியுண்டு,
நீறென்று கொய்வார் உண்டோ?
ஸ்த்ரீ ஜனம் தெய்வமென்றால்
புருஷன் முன்-தெய்வமன்றோ?
பதி-ஸதி ஐக்யமின்றி
ஸந்தானம் யேதுமுண்டோ?
கோலகம் குடிசை என்றால்
மாளிகை மரத்தடியோ?
அண்டம் நிறை பரமசிவன்
சிறு கல்லில் கண்டதில்லையோ?
கண்காணா கடல் வேந்தன்
கிண்ணத்தில் கண்டதுண்டு;
பொங்கும் அஹம் மட்டும்
ஆகாயம் துளாவுவதேன்?
பரம்மொருள் அகிலமென்று
பணிந்து நாம் அறிந்து விட்டால்,
“மாளிகை!  மாது!” —  வாதம்
தலை குநிந்தடங்கிடாதோ?
உறுமிவிட்டான்…. இல்லை இல்லை…. 
ஊளையிட்டான்…… புன்மதி படைத்த புல்லன்…….

பொறாமையால் பிதற்றிவிட்டான் – பதில்
தராமையும் நன்றே ஆகும்…….  
மதுமாந்தி மகிழும் மூடன்
மெதுவாக புகழை நச்சி
உதவாத வாதம் செய்யும்
பொதுவான பேதை வார்த்தை…….
தெருமுனை கோயில் நிழலில்
பெருமனை என்றே கொண்டு
எருமைபோல் மூர்க்கன் சென்று 
பெருமைமேல் அமர்ந்தேறட்டும்…..
பொன்மாளிகை பசுபெண்டிர்
வேண்டியது யானே ஆவேன்…..
அளப்பவன் அளக்கட்டும் அன்றி
மறுக்கட்டும் ஈஸ்வரன் எண்ணம்……
பொறாமை பொச்சரிப்பு இங்கு 
பிறர்க்கேன்? சிறுமதி கண்டீர்! 

புதுமை யாவும் பழமையாகும் என்று சொன்னேன்
பொறுமையோடு படிக்காமல் புலம்புகிறான் அவன்!
பத்தினி பெண் தான் வேண்டினேன் என்கிறான்
பண்ணிசை யாழ் மிசை மிகு கன்னி நாடியவன் !
கேவலம் என்று விமர்சிக்கிறான் – இருவர் மடலும்
ஊர்வலம் சென்று வந்தால் உண்மை வெளி வரும்!
ஏசுகிறான் என் கருத்தை , வீசுகிறான் வார்த்தை !
புவனத்து ஈஸ்வரன் பெயர் கொண்டான் அல்லவா ?
‘பவனம்’ ஜனாதிபதிபோல் விரும்பியது குற்றமா என்கிறான்!
கவனிக்க வில்லையா கேட்கிறான் கற்றவர் உறவு நாடியதை ?
கற்றவரோடு கலந்து உரையாட கடலோர கரை போதுமே!
தெருவு மூலையில் இருக்கும் கோவில் வளாகம் உண்டே!
நகருக்கு புற வெளியில் உள்ள நூல் நிலையம் போகலாமே ?
அவருக்கெல்லாம் சிறந்த பொன் மாளிகை தான் வேண்டுமா!
இவருக்கு இனி மறுபடி கொடுப்பதில் ஒரு பயனுமில்லை!
பேசுவது வெள்ளி , ‘மௌனம்’ தங்கம் என்றார் !
மடித்து வைக்கிறேன் என் மன நெகிழ்ச்சியை!
முடித்து விடுகிறேன் இந்த கடி கவிதையை ! ! !

இப்படிக்கு அன்புடன் 
பெ ந சு மணி 

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