11 steps to be self confident




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11 proven ways to gain unstoppable confidence

Those who know are ultimately much more confident in any arena than those shrouded in ignorance. Use your spare time to read up on the things that interest you, on the things that you are curious about, and build up a solid base of knowledge and critical thinking. The more you know, the more sure of yourself you will be in any situation. 

Uncertainty is the biggest drain on your self-confidence. Succumbing to doubt ensures you will never believe in yourself. The more often you do something, the more certain you become. With certainty comes confidence. 

Try to walk through your day with as easy and care-free of an attitude as you can muster, because someone who is it ease with him or herself is someone who is confident. Build unstoppable confidence by not getting hung up on the petty issues and minor irritations that help wear you down.

Take stock of yourself. Brainstorm for a bit and compose a list of your good qualities and bad, the things you excel at and the things you need to improve upon, and once you have a clear picture of yourself much of the uncertainty that breeds doubt will wash away. 

Take the time to properly think through every problem, and the confidence in your skills will grow. 

Try to be as complete and thorough at every task you attempt . Completing tasks builds confidence in your ability to always see projects through to their proper conclusion . 

Once you have assessed yourself, make a list of goals you wish to accomplish, and get to work. You now know your true limits, so the only thing left to do is push beyond them and set your sights on new frontiers.

Don’t close yourself off to friends, acquaintances and coworkers. The more you put yourself out there in business and social situations, the more quickly you will build confidence in your ability to navigate these sometimes tricky waters. 

Dress well, groom yourself, compose your identity as a person who is well put together, and you will feel confident when meeting new people and doing new things. 

While it is okay to take time to analyze and think situations through, the time comes when you must be decisive and act. Decisive people are confident; not confident people are decisive. 

Know yourself fully, wash away your own doubts about yourself, your identity and your capabilities, and present every aspect of yourself in every situation and you will have no reason to doubt your confidence. Become your full, real self.

A lot of confidence building techniques simply do not work. I’ve tried everything out there and studied confident people to see what makes them who they are. Continue reading this article for the top 11 traits you can develop to build strong self-confidence that attracts the people, job, and pleasures of life you want.


Believe in Yourself

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If you give a part of yourself to life,
the part you receive back will be so much greater.
Never regret the past, but learn by it.
Never lose sight of your dreams;
a person who can dream will always have hope.
Believe in yourself;
if you do, everyone else will.
You have the ability to accomplish anything,
but never do it at someone else’s expense.
If you can go through life loving others,
you will have achieved the greatest success of all.
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Enhancing Self confidence in Children

Previous weekend I took my four years son to the grocery store. While taking the escalators in the market his foot slipped due to which he was about to fell but he quickly gripped the reel and got stable. As I was just behind him so I held him from his shoulder at the same time helping him getting firm on escalators. He said, “Baba, I was about to fall” I said, “No my son, you will not fall” “Baba, because you are with me?” “No my son, because you are a big boy. You can take care of yourself” when he heard this, I noticed quick brightness in his eyes as if he was feeling more confident and a grown up kid, though he is just 4 years old J


Later I pondered that I could have agreed to him that he won’t fall down because I was with him which would have increased his trust in me. But then I thought that though this approach would have increased his trust in me however his self confidence wouldn’t have increased, instead it would be decreased because of his mental dependency on someone else because next time he is in such situation, he would be needing someone’s support. So the message I want to convey to the parents is that we must endeavor to boost the self confidence in our kids by consistently encouraging for the things which they have done right. This encouragement technique has to be changed with the passage of time. For example, you can say ‘Give me Five’ to your 3-4 year toddler however you can’t say this to your teen ager. Article written by Junaid.Tahir


While you work on improving self-confidence in your kids, the efforts to increase the parent-Kid trust should never be ignored at all. While in this story, the emphasis was given to enhance the kids’ self-confidence, at some other moments in life, parents may use sentences like “don’t worry,  I am with you” or “Let’s do this job together” or “I will support you” in order to increase their bonding with their kids since self confidence and trust both are equally important ingredient of your kids brought up in order to make them a confident and successful personality with strong character in future. You may want to read my article on criticism here since this is also linked with confidence.

what other tips you have for raising self confidence in your kids?