Enhancing Self confidence in Children

Previous weekend I took my four years son to the grocery store. While taking the escalators in the market his foot slipped due to which he was about to fell but he quickly gripped the reel and got stable. As I was just behind him so I held him from his shoulder at the same time helping him getting firm on escalators. He said, “Baba, I was about to fall” I said, “No my son, you will not fall” “Baba, because you are with me?” “No my son, because you are a big boy. You can take care of yourself” when he heard this, I noticed quick brightness in his eyes as if he was feeling more confident and a grown up kid, though he is just 4 years old J

 

Later I pondered that I could have agreed to him that he won’t fall down because I was with him which would have increased his trust in me. But then I thought that though this approach would have increased his trust in me however his self confidence wouldn’t have increased, instead it would be decreased because of his mental dependency on someone else because next time he is in such situation, he would be needing someone’s support. So the message I want to convey to the parents is that we must endeavor to boost the self confidence in our kids by consistently encouraging for the things which they have done right. This encouragement technique has to be changed with the passage of time. For example, you can say ‘Give me Five’ to your 3-4 year toddler however you can’t say this to your teen ager. Article written by Junaid.Tahir

 

While you work on improving self-confidence in your kids, the efforts to increase the parent-Kid trust should never be ignored at all. While in this story, the emphasis was given to enhance the kids’ self-confidence, at some other moments in life, parents may use sentences like “don’t worry,  I am with you” or “Let’s do this job together” or “I will support you” in order to increase their bonding with their kids since self confidence and trust both are equally important ingredient of your kids brought up in order to make them a confident and successful personality with strong character in future. You may want to read my article on criticism here since this is also linked with confidence.

what other tips you have for raising self confidence in your kids?

 

The Beggar King – story

Once there was a time, according to legend, when a king who had no son ruled Ireland. The king sent out his couriers to post notices in all the towns of his realm. The notices advised that every qualified young man should apply for an interview with the king as a possible successor to the throne. However, all such candidates must have these two qualifications: They must (1) love God and (2) love their fellow human beings.

 

The Young man about whom this legend centers saw a notice and reflected that he loved God and, also, his neighbors. One thing stopped him; he was so poor that he had no clothes that would be presentable in the sight of the king. Nor did he have the funds to buy provisions for the long journey to the castle. Therefore, the young man begged here, and borrowed there, finally managing to scrounge enough money for the appropriate clothes and the necessary supplies.

 

Properly attired and well suited, the young man set out on his quest, and had almost completed the journey when he came upon a poor beggar by the side of the road. The beggar sat trembling, clad only in tattered rags. His extended arms pleaded for help. His weak voice croaked, “I’m hungry and cold. Please help me… please?”

 

The young man was so moved by the beggar’s need that he immediately stripped off his new clothes and put on the tattered threads of the beggar. Without a second thought, he gave the beggar all his provision as well. Then, somewhat hesitantly, he continued his journey to the castle dressed in the rags of the beggar, lacking provisions for his return trek home. Upon his arrival at the castle, a king’s attendant showed him in to the great hall. After a brief respite to clean off the journey’s grime, he was finally admitted to the throne room of the king.

 

The young man bowed low before his majesty. When he raised his eyes, he gaped in astonishment. “You… it’s you! You’re the beggar by the side of the road.”

 

“Yes,” the king replied with a twinkle, “I was that beggar.”

 

“But…bu…bu… you are not really a beggar. You are the king for real. Well, then, why did you do this to me?” the young man stammered after gaining more of his composure.

 

“Because I had to find out if you genuinely love God and your fellow human beings,” said the king. “I knew that if I came to you as king, you would have been impressed by my gem-encrusted golden crown and my royal robes. You would have done anything I asked of you because of my regal character. However, that way I would never have known what is truly in your heart. Therefore, I used a ruse. I came to you as a beggar with no claims on you except for the love in your hear. Moreover, I discovered that you sincerely do love God and your fellow human beings. You will be my successor,” promised the king. “You will inherit my kingdom.”

 

what God wants…????

 

What GOD Wants?  Going to church every Sunday …………. .. Going to Mosque every Friday …………… Going to Temple every Saturday ………. … “Helping Hands are better than Praying Lips”    Let us not consider this mail as just another in our Inbox.. lets us make a difference, and that Change should start from Each one of Us !!!

 

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